Teresa Mallon, Soul-Centred Psychotherapy

Deirdre of the sorrowsOne of the most difficult life transitions is to face the loss of a loved one. Every loss has its own unique experience, depending on the connection to the one that has died, and of course by how much your heart was invested in loving the person who no longer stands before you.

We can experience grief in many ways. Death can come quick and fast, leaving those that remain in shock and in trauma, or it can be slow as we watch someone die from a terminal illness. The truth of the matter is that we are usually not well equipped for the overwhelming emotions that come our way.

Grief creates a physical heart pain, we can’t eat, we can’t sleep, we feel like our life is forever changed. A hopelessness and despair begins to pervade our lives, making it difficult to attend to our commitments, jobs and family.

During these times it is fundamental to our recovery to seek help and support from family and friends. Sometimes this amount of support is not enough.
A soul-centred Psychotherapist will witness a person’s grief by listening and attending to their needs in a safe and confidential manner. Together we can use practical tools to offer relief to your immediate stress.

Recently a client of mine lost a husband to a sudden heart attack. They shared four children ranging from 11 to 20 years old. The client has a strong religious faith and lives within a supportive community, yet she experienced a pressure to get back into life more quickly than she was ready for. She also missed her husband terribly. She had no chance to say goodbye, make final plans with him, nothing.

All her decisions had been shared with her husband. Her sleep was broken and repetitive dreams occurred where she was trying to talk with her husband yet he could not hear her. She would wake always in tears.

Our work together involved sorting through the deep grief, and also the anger that she felt, simply because she was left alone too soon and with no preparation. She also experienced feelings of abandonment. Though she knew her husband didn’t chose his fate, she was left running the family on her own.

In the sorting of the emotional landscapes grief can bring, my client was able to feel hope for a brighter future. She began to write a journal, which quickly filled with letters to her husband. As she did her dreams changed into images of sitting with her husband in a calm, soft manner so her sleep improved.

Together we can find a way to honour the person who you have lost and begin the journey to healing.

Contact Teresa Mallon at Healing Well, 147 Mostyn Street, Castlemaine, on 041 786 4556.

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